Your name

There are many names for pain
every poet wrote of sadness
Rupi, Beau, Najwa, Azra,
Cristina, Noor, adhocscrap.
These are the names of sadness
and hope, and strength too –
I don’t get that bit so much
I like it, but I don’t get it –
but their pain is mine
exactly mine. I get that part
totally.
On the other hand,
there is only one name for joy,
and it’s a secret, and it is lost.

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The beholder

How to write about loss
and ordinary days?
The banality of grief
and the terror of knowing that
the sun at
the centre of my universe
is a cold and guttering spark.
The flame that my glittering
moth-winged soul desired
was a smoking, stinking lamp.
But why could you not take the beauty
that I clothed you in
and wear it, glory in it?
So utterly convinced that it was not for you
that you had to tear it off
throw it to the gutter
and then deny it ever existed.
While I was on my knees in the mud
weeping and searching for the pieces
all you had for me was a shrug:
“well, if you like playing in the dirt…
I have more important things to do”.

But I didn’t make that garment for you.
I tried, but I never
could make one for anyone else. No,
all I did was find it,
and see it, and love it. And
that
was
unforgiveable.
I saw you and loved you for it –
a capital crime –
which had to be erased:
you are not the you I saw,
I am not the me I know,
there is no love; only fantasy,
delusion, and a momentary infatuation.
Or: denial, fear, old deep hurt; two small
children crying in the dark in their separate cells
inside our ribs; but mine saw yours; and yours
knew
it was another trick.

How can I stop wanting you?
I can’t believe
weakness is all there is,
or that safety lies in no hope.
I see your cruelty and your frailty,
yes, and I see all your defeats and your
desperate hopeless pride, and I taste
like metal on my tongue
the humiliations I’ve embraced;
but in another breath
the next clock tick
a shift of the light
and there you are
the you that lost the war
the you that could be
that still is, in there,
and in me.
I see that too.
I can’t stop seeing it.

Unwanted gift

Thanks to
My stubborn flesh
And thrice stubborn catcher
the gravity
At the cliff is
Weaker now.
And so I’m stuck
With this unwanted gift
Tried to return it
But it was damaged goods.
It never worked anyway
So I’ve always said
And market surveys confirm.

Again

I lose you again and again.
That crashing, world-splitting realization that you are gone,
that cataclysmic rupture in the walls of denial. A
tidal wave of grief and loss pours through.
I drown for a day. Two days. Three days.
I know I’m going to die, which calms me a bit.
I go over again all the ways and cross them off one by one – too messy, too traumatic for others, too painful. How can I make it look like an accident? Too much trouble. Stumped.
My beautiful catcher shines a torch onto the mud-drenched debris field I’m sitting in, and pulls me to me feet, and I cycle through
I can live because I no longer hope for anything
I can just live in the moment
I have finally, finally, this time, given up on you
I have grown past this grief, and can love you without needing you
I try to hate you and move on to spite you, but that one never works, so I keep going past that and on to
The pain will never go away, but I can handle it, I will just live in pain
I’ve let you go
I can never let you go
I’ll try to live a life that you’ll approve of
One day there’ll be someone else who makes me feel the way I did with you
I lay these planks over the mudflats and try to walk on them, and for a while things settle down and even, a few days, I’m happy. Two weeks. A month after the end of the world. If it’s a good run I make some plans. Any plans at all are a novelty.
I dare to think – what next? How can I live my totally altered life? I’ve learnt so much, surely it can be a good life? I have wisdom now. All I need is a goal. And then
I realize
the
only
thing
I
want
is you.
And you are gone.
And I lose you like it’s the first time the unimaginable end of everything happened. Again. And again.

Stars

On my back
at the bottom of the well
split open
looking at the sky
the cooling breeze
on the inside of my ribs
makes me think
there’s a hole in the well
of course
that’s why it’s empty
and I’m bleeding to death
instead of drowning.
I hope I last
long enough
to see the stars.